Size matters; or does it? According to a survey by the American Psychological Association, 85% of women are actually satisfied with their partner’s penis size. Only 55% of men felt the same way. Similarly, one study asked women to read arousing stories where male characters either had small, medium or large penis sizes. The researchers found that there were no differences in sexual arousal based on penis size.
What is considered a small penis?
According to a study based on 15,000 men, the average size of a flaccid penis is 9.16 cm and that of an erect penis is 13.12 cm. The University of California School of Medicine considers a flaccid length of 4 cm (or 7.5 cm erect) as a benchmark size for penis enlargement. So, anything above that is not really considered ‘small’, but falls somewhere within the ‘average’ spectrum.
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Unfortunately, whether you are satisfied with the size of your penis or not does have an effect on how active you are sexually. A survey of around 4,000 men in the U.S. found that men who were more satisfied with their genitals were also more sexually active (86%) than those who were unsatisfied with their penis (73%).
But there’s more than size to good sex. If you think you have a small penis, the right position can make all the difference.
The best sex positions for men with small penises
1. Flexed doggy style – the curved or flexed doggy style position allows your partner to get on her knees and elbows. You’ll be penetrating them from behind.
2. Reverse cowgirl – in this position, you’re lying down with a pillow beneath your butt. Your partner is sitting on top of you but facing your legs.
3. Side cowgirl – you’re lying down, but without a pillow beneath your butt this time. Your partner sits on top of you with legs swung over to one side.
4. Pile driver – this one requires a little more flexibility. Your partner will be lying on their back with legs in the air. You’ll be squatting on top.
5. Super girl – your partner will be lying on their stomach with their legs squeezed tightly together as you penetrate them from behind.
There’s more good news for men with small penises. Women tend to prefer smaller genitals for anal sex as it’s less painful. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB), which surveyed almost 2,000 adults in the U.S. about their sexual experiences, 92% of women orgasmed during anal sex compared to 62% during vaginal sex.
Is porn causing sexual dysfunction?
You may be unsatisfied with your penis size because you’ve been watching too much porn. Multiple research studies have shown that men become more concerned about the size of their genitals and their performance the more pornography they viewed.
Men who viewed an average 3.8 hours of porn per week showed weaker neural activation compared to those who viewed less than an hour of porn. It shows that those who watch a lot of porn may be more blunted when engaging in real-life sexual experiences due to overstimulation.
Pornography also had a negative effect on body image among youngsters. A study among Swedish participants aged 14 to 20 years noticed that both girls and boys compared themselves and their sexual skills to those portrayed in pornography.
But it’s worth remembering that in most cases, pornography is highly unrealistic. Much like the airbrushed photograph, it’s a depiction of a sexual fantasy that rarely happens in real life.
How to have great sex with a small penis?
Having good sex irrespective of penis size comes down to two main things:
1. Be confident. Don’t rely on porn to show you what’s normal. Try not to compare yourself.
2. Talk to your partner. Engage in open conversation about what your partner likes. This will ensure you are both getting the most out of your time together.
Great intercourse is what you make of it. So, go have fun.
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